Allergic to drama..

I hate drama of the non thespian variety. I've had my fair share of it in my own life and there's a certain amount I have no choice but to put up with for several more years to come. My preference though is to stay far far far away from drama.



There are always people who try to pull you into their drama. Either because they need and want your help or because they just want to unload while they lick their wounds.



As a Christian it is hard to know how involved to get when someone unleashes their drama into your world. You have to quietly, carefully, and prayerfully examine their motives. Are they willing to grow and change? Are their hearts soft and teachable? Are they broken, or just hurting? Are they open to accountability? Are you able to meet their needs?



It takes time to evaluate these things. There are two sides to every story and the truth usually lies somewhere in the middle. Sometimes it is difficult to discern whether or not a crisis is truly a crisis and making the wrong move can cause everything to come tumbling down, trapping yourself under the rubble in the process.



So what do you do? You pray. You listen. You measure the situation against what scripture says. You lean not on your own understanding, don't respond on emotion but stand firm in the standard God has set for how we are to live our lives. If the person is not willing to hear that and is not willing to grow, change, and be accountable then you do not allow them to involve you in their drama. Find other things to talk about, but aside from asking them what specific things you can pray for do not listen to their venting. If you can not mentor them point them to someone else who can lead and guide them. You must put boundaries on the relationship while still allowing God to love them through you for as long as they will let you.

Sometimes doing the right thing leads to a severance of the relationship. It is always a sad and painful thing when fellowship is broken. But even if that person writes you off, if they are part of the family of God the relationship, though broken, is still there. Take it to the Lord. Over and over and over again. Never give up, never lose faith.


"Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance."

"Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture! But when full understanding comes, these partial things will become useless."

"Now we see things imperfectly as in a cloudy mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely."

(I Corinthians 13)