Somethings only another parent can "get"...

Only another parent can conceptualize the effect that a parents neglect and subsequent abandonment has on a child. Only another parent can understand the need to place boundaries of protection between that child and the offending parent. Only another parent can understand how incredibly wrong it is to have a child or children when you have had other children which you have neglected, abused and abandoned. How dare you tell me how I should handle him in regards to my children when you have no idea where we've been or what he's done to us.

Knowing someone for years and years does not mean that you KNOW them. Don't sit there and tell me you know him better than me because you've known him longer. When you've been the object of his abuse and control, when you've stood by for years watching him lie, cheat, steal, and use yourself and others to get his way, then you can come tell me about having "differences".

He may have contributed his DNA but he is NOT their father. That is a choice that HE made, not me. And frankly I am so thankful he made that choice. Despite the hurt they've felt it is the best thing that ever happened to them. And again; unless you know what he has put them through, held them through their tears and listened to them try to rationalize and excuse his inexcusable behavior don't even think about telling me otherwise.

And of course I am offended that he started another family. Yes, I did too, but I did not walk out on my children and then REPLACE them. No one has to worry that I will neglect and abandon my children. His having a replacement child is a stress that my children didn't need. My daughters greatest fear over the past several years is that he would have more children and "do to them what he did to us".

How DARE you sit their and pontificate the "facts" to me when you haven't seen or spoken to me in over 10 years, when you have never met my children, and you have no idea what that man has done to me, my children, or other people in our lives over the past decade plus.

SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!